Silence

In shadows cast by deceit and lies

The one at fault never truly apologizes

They demand silence, the victim’s voice to hush

Gaslighting their pain, urging them to crush

Others join in, echoing the same refrain

“Stop blaming, move on,” a dismissive campaign

Criticism rains down upon the one in need

While the perpetrator roams free, their misdeeds feed

Yet amidst the crowd, a voice must rise

To champion truth, unveil the disguise

Standing tall against the storm of disdain

Empowering the victim, breaking the chain

For in a world where blame is misplaced

It takes courage and empathy to embrace

To hold the guilty accountable and true

And uplift the voice of the silenced few

I frequently discuss the concept of blame. It is a complex matter. Distinguishing between holding someone accountable for the challenges in your life and attributing responsibility to someone with malicious intent who has caused your difficulties is crucial. This is particularly true when dealing with individuals who fail to acknowledge the harm they have inflicted through their actions.

When someone urges you to cease blaming them despite inflicting significant harm, it is a tactic to silence you. Friends and family members may also echo this sentiment, perpetuating the cycle of enabling the individual truly at fault.

It is acceptable to assign blame to someone, as your emotions are legitimate. Both your feelings and mine are valid. However, it is essential not to allow blame to overwhelm your entire existence. I hold my mother responsible for imparting only negativity, teaching me to gossip and be unkind, to hurt other people in manipulative and psychotic ways, and for shaping the toxic and unhealthy environment in which I grew up and passed on to my son.

I attribute blame to my father for the heinous act of sexually assaulting me, for causing pain to my mother, for deserting me, and for repeating that abandonment even when given another opportunity to be a part of my life. This extends to numerous friends and particularly my ex-fiancé. Despite this, I refuse to let it consume me, recognizing that this acknowledgment is a crucial aspect of my healing journey.